Answer by Rob
you can do whatever you want.. whos gonna stop you?
Answer by Meagan K
I think that it's definitely psychological. If you are a timid person, you are probably more prone to perfering submission, if you are an assertive/agressive person at nature, you would probably be more likely to dominate, etc.
The way your life is lived and the way your experiences play out, shapes who you are in the present. If you have had a life of being nurtured and comforted (by your parents, etc), then you are probably going to find pleasure in gentle sex (I'm assuming that's what you mean by vanilla...? I've never heard someone say "vanilla sex" before...).
It's sort of a nature vs nurture type of thing, in which this case nuture shapes who you are presently, and that determines your personal preferences.
It can also vary from mood to mood. I know that I don't always prefer the same type of sexual treatment EVERY time. Although I do tend to lean towards one way of treatment, it varies depending on what I feel like. I tend to prefer the rough way of things (sometimes even moderate pain such as biting, etc). I grew up not being very well cared for... my mom was a typical "refrigerator mom", meaning she was cold and reserved, showing little affection. My dad was actually abusive, and when he wasn't being abusive he was quite reclusive (no rhyming intended!!). So needless to say, I didn't get much "nurture" growing up. And now look at me... I prefer rough housing and moderate pain. Definite correlation right there........
Answer by sundaymorninglover
Interesting or not, it definitely is an ongoing debate. A plus point about your topic is that you won't be short of statistics, international data, research and studies.
Try narrowing it down to a certain country/area. The more localized/specific your essay topic becomes, the easier it is to write about. By doing this, you may not have localized statistics, but you can use international data as a comparison in your essay. Your possibilities are endless with your chosen topic, you can talk about the consequences, effects on society, single parenthood etc
Good luck!
